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Couples do not come to therapy because they don’t care.

They come because they care and want to learn how to demonstrate that to their partner..

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Common Issues:

  • repeating fights

  • emotional distance

  • trust injuries

  • communication breakdown

  • lack of sex or emotional intimacy

  • feeling ignored or lonely

  • imbalance in responsibilities

Often the problem is not the topic of the argument — it is the interaction pattern.

Do you know your go to style in conflict? What about your partner’s?

  • pursuer / withdrawer

  • defensive / critical

  • shutdown / escalation

Together we will figure out your automatic response patterns and learn new ways of communicating in conflict that bring you closer together, rather than in separate bedrooms.

What Couples Therapy Sessions Are Like

In our first few sessions, my goal is not to decide who is right or wrong. Most couples already feel stuck in that cycle at home.

I help you slow conversations down so both partners can feel heard rather than defended against. When discussions move quickly, people react automatically — one partner pushes harder to be understood while the other shuts down or withdraws. I will pause you in those moments and look at what each person is actually experiencing underneath the reactions.

Together we identify the patterns you get pulled into, and then practice different ways of getting what you want. Rather than saving everything for home, you begin trying new communication strategies right there with support and guidance. Many couples feel relief simply understanding why arguments escalate so quickly and realizing their partner is not intentionally trying to hurt them. Ironically, most couples report wanting the same thing underneath the chaos.

The goal is not to win arguments.
The goal is to change the pattern the arguments keep following, and hopefully enjoy some laughter along the way.

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You do not need to be on the brink of separation for therapy to help.

Client Reviews

Alex, thank you for your boundless support. We consider you an integral part of our journey & appreciate your care, guidance, and friendship. I won’t be a so and so again ;-)

— Former Client  (your humor, wisdom, and unconditional love for your partner will always be admired)

“Thank you again very much for your immense kindness and compassion, it meant so much to us. Now that sex, love, and all that jazz has returned and you’ve left us on our own, I wish you nothing but the best and can’t express my gratitude enough.” 

— Former Client (miss you too)

“Our time with Alex has helped us grow and understand each other. I appreciate that she kept going, digging in until she found the roots that needed to be exposed and we grew stronger than ever before: together forever.”

-Former couple (who are far more eloquent than I will ever be)